Although I have empathy for my family who shun me, I no longer excuse them. Enough time has passed for them to have thought through what they are doing. They have decided to harden their hearts sufficiently to keep up the embargo.
Given the nonsense they have filled their heads with and their rudeness, not seeing each other is now my choice too. Life is too short spend living in hope for something that will never come - isn't that the mistake JWs make?
SweetBabyCheezits They should treat you with respect when they see in front of your children or not at all. Perhaps their rudeness could result in you deciding that they are setting a bad example and as such are bad association for your children.
If they thought that rarely seeing their grandchildren could be the price they end up paying, they may realize that they don't have the control over family matters that they assume is all theirs.